Mar. 30, 2010 - Switch by Chip and Dan Heath

"For anything to change, someone has to start acting differently." Why is it so difficult for change to happen? The older we get, the more set in our ways we are. The way we act has become an engrained habit which is difficult if not impossible to change. Have you ever noticed that people tend to sit in the same spot on the bus or the same table at a conference, even though there is no seating plan? How are traditions established? Because, people like a certain activity and don't want that to change - they make it a part of their family routine. If change is so difficult to accomplish, why bother at all? Let's just agree to be consistent and leave it at that. But sometimes change is necessary for our personal growth, our health or our emotional state. The authors identify three ways to establish change in your family life, personal life, career or community - direct the rider, motivate the elephant and shape the path.

We've all experienced changes in our lives and gotten through them. Life is indeed a series of big changes - childhood, adulthood, new job, a baby's birth, and even death which is inevitable. There is a comfort in doing things the same way you always have but this causes people to stagnate and be unmotivated. If we are to grow and learn, we need to start embracing change and looking for opportunities that will help us evolve. As long as we are not changing for the sake of change, but rather for improvement or to update an outdated system or way of thinking.

The concept of change is difficult for many to embrace but nevertheless, it is important in our lives. Without any change, improvements cannot be made and lessons cannot be learned. As the famous Ghandi quote says, "Be the change you want to see in the world." It all starts with you.

Mar. 29, 2010 - The Bully Wears Heels, Chatelaine magazine, April 2010

"Workplace bullying is defined as deliberate and focused mistreatment of an employee" or "repeated, vexatious behaviour that erodes a worker's dignity." Reminiscent of school bullying, I was not really surprised to discover that the behaviours associated with bullying at school continue in the workplace - exclusion, isolation, rumours, defamation, and violent outbursts. When someone is bullied, the result may be depression, high blood pressure, anxiety, low self-esteem, lack of confidence or even post-traumatic stress disorder. It's difficult enough to deal with bullying as a child in school, let alone in an environment that should be professional. Telling "the teacher" about it won't help in this situation, especially if the bully is your boss. So what strategies can be used?

The article suggests spotting the signs, then making a record of incidents involving the bully as well as writing down health issues and related doctor's appointments. If you have cause for concern, report the incidents to a supervisor, the HR department or a union representative - someone you can trust to support you. Make sure to protect your reputation, financial security and personal relationships above all. If necessary, looking for a new job, in order to remove yourself from the situation, may alleviate the daily stress experienced in this environment. You shouldn't have to leave a job you love, but in the long run, another opportunity may be just what is needed to restore your confidence and peace of mind.

Mar. 28, 2010 - Modern Manners, Real Simple Magazine, April 2010

This article gives suggestions on how to deal with people who want too much of your time. The advice columnist calls them "Time Suckers" and makes them sound like leeches, sucking up your valuable free time. Although some people have hectic schedules, it is no reason to dismiss people who want to spend time with you. I still think it is important to make time for others. Perhaps, a friend needs support or just wants to spend quality time with you. Even though we are busy, if we do not make the time now, these friends will not be there for us in the future when we need them. What will happen when our children are grown and go out into the world to start their own lives? We'll need a friend to ask us out for lunch or to go to a movie together. If you see someone on the street and it's not a good time to talk, arrange to call each other at another time. If you don't have time for an extended visit, suggest a shorter get together; but, avoiding them entirely is not a healthy way of interacting socially. Since when should we be so choosy or stuck up to insinuate that we are the only ones who are busy or that our time is more valuable than anyone else's? So next time you decide to shun that "time sucker", think twice about the message you are sending. As the golden rule states, "Treat others the way you would like to be treated."

Mar. 27, 2010 - The Twelve by William Gladstone

Based on the Mayan prediction that the world will end on December 12, 2012, one can't help but feel an overwhelming sense of doom while reading the preface of this book. "There are ancient legends...all pointing to 2010 as the beginning or end of life as humanity has lived it...Christianity has long awaited the second coming that will be heralded by end-times of fire, as well as the promise of heaven on earth. The Jews wait for the coming of the Messiah, and many aboriginal spiritual traditions have anticipated the transformation of the planet in some magical way. All in or around this sacred year of 2012."

Despite knowing that these doom and gloom predictions are usually wrong, the preface immediately put me on edge. Many have predicted the eventual end of the world and it is certainly likely, although hopefully far in the future, that it will eventually happen. Movies with this "end of the world" theme have tended to hook audiences quite easily and there have certainly been many of them - The Day After Tomorrow, Deep Impact, I am Legend, Knowing and the recent 2012, which I have yet to see.

In this particular story, the birth of the main character Max is the "Big Bang" that is the focus of the first chapter. This is immediately followed by two contrasting chapters, The Death of Max Doff and Max Lives, both taking place in 1965. This suspenseful way of beginning the story immediately hooks the reader. How will Max's near death experience change his life and provide the opportunity to meet the 12 people who will determine the fate of the world? I am excited to read further to find out.

Mar. 26, 2010 - The Killing Way by Tony Hays

By combining a mystery with the historical genre, Tony Hays has created a book that is part CSI, part medieval epic. From Sherlock Holmes to Hercule Poirot, Columbo to Monk, detectives in books and movies are portrayed as having unique characteristics that endear them to the reader. In the tradition of quirky detectives, comes a medieval anti-hero named Malgwyn, a one-armed farmer and warrior, fallen on bad luck due to his perception of worthlessness since the loss of his arm in battle. His appointment by Arthur to solve the murder of a serving girl is a race against the clock to clear the magician Merlin before he must be executed. As the investigation continues, the stakes become higher and danger surrounds everyone involved. Can Malgwyn find the murderer and discover his motive before it is too late?

Mar. 25, 2010 - The Killing Way by Tony Hays

Although this novel is set during the time of King Arthur, it does not tell the story of his life and achievements. Instead, it uses characters and events from his time as a backdrop for a murder mystery. A young girl has been killed, the sister-in-law of Malgwyn, whose wife was ravaged and killed by the Saxons in a raid. Because of this, Malgwyn has become an alcoholic and has sent his only daughter away to be raised by his brother and his wife. His rage over the killing of his wife sent him on many raids with King Arthur. During one of the battles, he lost his arm and was saved by Arthur, who he now says he hates. Without his arm, he feels useless. He is not a real man because he can't fight, he can't farm, he can't do anything. Arthur sends him to Avalon to be healed and to be taught how to scribe so that he may feel useful. With the ability to read and write, the medical skills he picked up from the monks and his cunning strategy in battle, Malgwyn is a useful comrade.

This background information is important so that the reader understands why Arthur has chosen Malgwyn to solve the murder. Arthur is worried that his friend and mentor, Merlin, is being framed in order to discredit Arthur and prevent him from becoming the next Nostradamos or High King of Britain. Indeed, much of the evidence points to Merlin, but it is all circumstantial - a mutilated body, a missing heart, Merlin's knife. Malgwyn notices important details easily and is able to make inferences that will help him eventually solve this tragic mystery. But time is running out. The leaders of the consilium are all gathered for the vote so Malgwyn must work quickly to save not only Merlin but also Arthur's hopes of becoming High King.

Mar. 24, 2010 - The Killing Way by Tony Hays

The mythical character King Arthur has been the focus of many books over the years. Each time, the basic story remains the same but the details, settings or characters can be depicted quite differently. For example, Rosalind Miles has written a trilogy which is from Guinevere's point of view rather than Arthur's. Jack Whyte's Dream of Eagles series is from a more historical perspective and traces the history of King Arthur back to Roman times. Mary Stewart's Merlin trilogy, beginning with The Crystal Cave, is from the point of view of the legendary magician. The Mists of Avalon by Marion Zimmer Bradley is from the perspective of several of the female characters, Gwenhwyfar, Viviane, and Morgause.

In this particular novel, a new character, Malgwyn, is the narrator of the story. He recounts the legend in flashback as he records his account of past times in a journal. Having reached the age of 90, he is remembering what happened during Arthur's rise to power and the part he played in it, for better or for worse. Many of the characters are names I recognize from other versions of the story - Guinevere, Gawain, Gaheris, Bedevere, and Mordred to name a few. What part Malgwyn plays and how the author weaves him into the legend of King Arthur, remains to be seen.

Mar. 23, 2010 - Knit Two by Kate Jacobs

To everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose under the sun. - Ecclesiastes 3: 1-8. As the sequel wraps up, I see many connections between this biblical quote and the story of The Friday Night Knitting Club.

"A time to be born and a time to die." The day of Georgia's death brings the birth of Lucie's daughter, Ginger and later the birth of Darwin's twins, demonstrating the continuous cycle of life. Anita and her children still miss her husband Stan, who died many years ago but now, Anita is trying to move on with Marty, rather than live her life alone.

"A time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance." Although all the members of the club are deeply affected by Georgia's death, they are eventually able to come to terms with it by supporting each other through the difficult times. Their Italian journey brings revelations and growth for everyone so that they can remember the past with fondness and look forward to a future filled with happiness.

"A time to lose and a time to seek." Anita is haunted by the loss of her younger sister, who she has not seen since she was a teenager. She realizes that without closure, she will not be able to set a wedding date and thus embarks on a journey of discovery, to find both her sister and herself, and to come to terms with the mistakes of her past.

"A time to keep silent and a time to speak." Anita does not tell anyone what happened between her and her sister many years ago to keep them apart, not even her fiancé, Marty. Eventually, when the time is right, she tells Catherine about her and is thus able to let go of past so she can be happy in the future. Many secrets are kept by the characters and are only revealed when they are ready to come to terms with the outcome of their revelation.


Through good times and bad, happy and sad, the club members have been there for each other, working through the sadness of their loss and forging the way to a bright future. A happy ending for everyone ensues, although not in the way any of them had planned. 

Mar. 22, 2010 - Knit Two by Kate Jacobs

"Life is just a process to figure out who we are." As the story progresses that is exactly what each of the characters is attempting to do. This close-knit group of friends must move on without Georgia to guide them or to be a part of their life. Georgia was the glue that bound the friendships, that brought everyone together. It is interesting that in their grief, the friends continue to turn to each other to sort out the various problems in their lives. These problems hinge around relationships with each other, with spouses, and with children all while each character tries to figure out who they are and what ultimately makes them happy.

It is easy to connect with each character's problems as they are everyday situations that many of us deal with. For example, in the first book, Darwin was separated from her doctor husband, Dan, and was unsure what to do with her life. Now, after reuniting with her husband and having just given birth to twins, she sees life in a new perspective. Lucie is raising a child as a single mother and is beginning to doubt that decision as she finds it difficult to manage a child and a career. Lucie's older brother, Nathan, doesn't agree with their mother babysitting for her constantly - she is now 80 years old and is beginning to have difficulty getting around. So much so, that Nathan has taken away her car keys. He believes Lucie is taking advantage of their mother instead of doing her part to help. Meanwhile, Lucie is also neglecting her friendship with Darwin now that the twins have arrived. Darwin supported Lucie when Ginger was born but she is not receiving the same support from her friend. Catherine, having reunited with Georgia before her death continues to see James who is Dakota's father. They go for lunch and reserve a table for three, one place setting for Georgia. They are having difficulty accepting Georgia's death, as is her daughter, Dakota. She doesn't really want to work at the knitting shop as there are too many reminders of her mother but no one understands and thinks that she is unmotivated instead.

These and many other realistic situations engage the reader in the lives of the characters and the outcome of the story as it draws to a conclusion. Will everyone's problems be happily resolved in the end? That's not always real life, but in the end, it is the journey that is often more important.

Mar. 21, 2010 - Knit Two by Kate Jacobs

After having so much difficulty getting involved in The Friday Night Knitting Club, I was surprised with my eagerness to read the sequel when I saw it at the library. My original reluctance had come because of the lack of any substantial action or suspense in the first book; however, I persevered and was glad because  by the end of the novel, I was thoroughly invested in the characters, their relationships and the outcome of their lives.

I do remember that by the time things got moving along, the story was over, leaving the characters in a state of limbo. None of their situations had been resolved and no one had really dealt with the death of Georgia. My excitement at seeing the sequel was due to the chance to finally find out the answers to all my questions. Knit Two takes place five years after Georgia's death. All the members of the Friday night knitting club are still in touch with each other. Peri has taken over the store, running it until Dakota, Georgia's daughter, is old enough to take over. They continue to have meetings, though not as often, and to confide in and support each other through different life situations.

I am finding the sequel much more captivating due to my connection with the characters and their struggles to carry on with their lives after Georgia's untimely death.

Mar. 20, 2010 - What the Dog Saw by Malcolm Gladwell

What the Dog Saw is a compilation of some of Malcolm Gladwell's favourite columns from his time at The New Yorker. Each of the essays investigates a question or a story of interest - for example, "Why do we equate genius with precocity?" or "How do we hire when we can't tell who's right for the job?". The book is grouped into three categories. Part One deals with Obsessives, Pioneers, and Other Varieties of Minor Genius; Part Two investigates Theories, Predictions, and Diagnoses; and, Part Three concerns Personality, Character, and Intelligence. Malcolm Gladwell's inquisitiveness always leads to interesting research and theories. From the reason why no one has ever come up with a ketchup to compete with Heinz to an investigation of the difference between choking and panicking, each essay is unique and engaging in its own right.

"The trick to finding ideas is to convince yourself that everyone and everything has a story to tell." So even though the story of shampoo may not be interesting, it may lead to something else that is - hair colour. Can you imagine a story about hair colour being engaging? In Malcolm Gladwell's hands, we can't help but agree that it is.

Mar. 19, 2010 - A Rogue of My Own by Johanna Lindsey

There's nothing like a good romantic novel and Johanna Lindsey is a master at writing them. Even though most follow the same predictable plot line, it is always a pleasure to read her stories. This particular story takes place at the royal court of Queen Victoria and Prince Albert. Billed as a historical romance, it is the setting and the names of the characters only that make it so. None of the specific plot details relate in any way to the historical context of the period. Still, the typical girl meets rogue, hates him but falls in love with him anyways while placed in some dangerous situations only to realize she loves him and he loves her, is for some reason appealing. Wouldn't we all like to fall so madly in love with someone? Real life is not usually as exciting. A fast and enjoyable read, Johanna Lindsey's latest offering continues her tradition as the queen of romantic fiction.

Mar. 18, 2010 - Her Fearful Symmetry by Audrey Niffeneger

The writing style of many authors is easily recognized in their works. In fact, many writers follow a set plot pattern which makes their writing very predictable. For example, the Da Vinci Code series of novels has basically the same plot, just different characters and settings. This is not the case in Audrey Niffeneger's second novel, Her Fearful Symmetry. Although the theme of love is present in both texts, the only other similarity is in the supernatural or science-fiction elements. In The Time Traveller's Wife the concept of moving back and forth through time is explored; in this novel, life after death, ghosts and souls returning to bodies are the focus.

As the novel wound to a conclusion, a number of mysterious and unpredictable plot twists left me feeling disturbed and confused. At the very end of the story, Robert, who should have enjoyed his happy ending with Elspeth, left her without warning. There was no indication where he was going, why he was going, if he would return or even if he might kill himself because of his guilt. His relationship to the twins was also unclear. At one point, it appeared that he might be their father but his actions were anything but paternal. Martin finally left his apartment for Amsterdam to find his wife but we are left wondering if their reunion will be permanent or whether his illness will prevent them for staying together. Julia seems to like Martin's son, Theo, but how will their relationship develop? The twins' parents have apparently resolved their issues but can they live happily after everything that has happened and the secrets that have been kept? And poor Victoria is left in Highgate cemetery destined for life as a ghost rather than the life she should have had with her twin.

In the end, the character that disturbed me the most was the twins' aunt, Elspeth. Although she seems to be loving and caring at the beginning of the book, bequeathing the girls her fortune and her home, her true motives are eventually revealed as the girls live in her apartment with her ghost. The gruesome outcome of her relationship with the twins appears to be something that she plotted with Robert, which makes both characters appear selfish and evil. I was prepared to like both Robert and Elspeth and, indeed, rooted for them to find happiness only to have the rug pulled out from under me as their sinister plot was revealed.

Although I enjoyed reading this book, I wish I could say it was a satisfying experience or that I felt a resolution of the plot. In the end I was left with too many unresolved questions to elicit that "happy ending" feeling.

Mar. 17, 2010 - Her Fearful Symmetry by Audrey Niffeneger

I was delighted to discover this new novel by the author of The Time Traveller's Wife on another recent visit to the library. Billed as a ghost story, the setting of the infamous Highgate Cemetery in London contributes to the eerie atmosphere. A mysterious opening, introduces some of the main characters, who have secrets to be revealed as the story progresses. Two twin sisters, one of whom dies at the outset of the book, may contribute to the title Her Fearful Symmetry. As well, the surviving sister has twin daughters, nieces of the deceased who will inherit their aunt's flat in London.

An interesting character, Martin, has OCD and I was intrigued by the description of his condition and the rituals he undertook each day in order to exist happily in his space. However, he never goes out of his apartment. His wife leaves him to return to Amsterdam as she cannot deal with his illness any longer. I can imagine how difficult it would be to live in such a restrictive environment. He has refused to participate in therapy and I wonder if perhaps, after losing his wife, he will find the courage to get help.

I am looking forward to an exciting story that will answer these and other questions elicited by the first few chapters of this book.

Mar. 16, 2010 - The Murder of King Tut by James Paterson and Martin Dugard

I am so glad I took the time to read this book before going to the King Tut exhibit in Toronto today. Being able to make connections and apply my background knowledge made the whole exhibit come alive for me. I was immediately immersed in ancient Egypt and recognized many of the people and objects that existed during that time.

Howard Carter, who discovered King Tut's tomb, was also featured. The book detailed his long and arduous journey to the discovery and this was evident in what was presented at the museum. To the question "Can you see anything?", his first words were "Yes, yes, wonderful things." Indeed, many of the "wonderful things" found in the tomb, were on display. King Tut had been buried with all of his belongings and these were discovered intact in the tomb. The first item seen by Carter as he broke through the first entrance, was a white bed which was one of the items featured at the exhibit. It truly was magnificent to view this item and imagine how Carter felt when he saw it in 1922.

It was interesting to note the items valued by the ancient Egyptians and therefore, placed in the tombs of dead Pharaohs. Many of the items held great significance especially in the after life. For example, small wooden "shabtis" in different poses and holding various tools represented workers for the deceased. Models of boats, the main means of transportation, were also important. The mummy, not shown at the exhibit, was ceremonially wrapped with amulets, necklaces and other jewellery, much of which was on display. The gold finger and toe protectors on the mummy were also present. The canopic vessels which held the internal organs were fascinating. One in particular, a small, golden sarcophagus, had held the stomach.

Disappointing, but to be expected, was the fact that the sarcophagus, the mummy and the golden mask were not featured. Obviously delicate and expensive items, I understood their absence; nonetheless, I had hoped to see something -  even a video or replica would have sufficed.

Mar. 15, 2010 - Malaria Not Murder Felled King Tut, The Star, Feb. 16, 2010

Interest in King Tut having been revived by the AGO's recent exhibit, theories about his death continue to abound. Murder is the most suspected cause, given the conspiracies that existed in ancient Egypt to cease power of the throne. However, many of the pre-existing theories are based on historical knowledge rather than medical. This article reveals a new theory, arrived at after much research of the skeleton and its DNA.

The information is based on studies undertaken in Egypt on the corpses of Tut and his ancestors. DNA evidence and comparison of physiology with other mummies has also led to the identification of his paternal grandmother, his father, Akhenaten and possibly his mother. All three bodies carry the malaria parasite found in King Tut's remains and theorized to have eventually caused his death.

"Using high-tech medical scanning equipment and DNA testing of mummified tissues, the researchers ruled out everything from Marfan to murder." The scans also revealed a clubfoot and osteoarthritis, which researchers believe explains the wealth of walking sticks found in the tomb. It is truly amazing what modern science can unearth!

Mar. 14, 2010 - The Murder of King Tut by James Paterson and Martin Dugard

In preparation for a visit to the AGO's King Tut exhibit on Tuesday, a visit to the library today yielded a number of interesting titles, this non-fiction thriller in particular.

Why are people fascinated with King Tut? Probably for the same reason as they are obsessed with the sinking of the Titanic, the location of the Lost City of Atlantis, the assassination of John F. Kennedy and any number of unsolved tragedies that remain a mystery to this day. The speculation, the theories and the aura of mystery surrounding these events make them intriguing and captivating for all.

Set in the present of Howard Carter who discovered the tomb and the historical, Egyptian past (BCE), the book alternates between these settings to explore the clues that reveal the fate of this young Egyptian pharaoh. The authors use historic evidence such as x-rays, forensic clues, Carter's files and stories passed down through the ages to piece together their version of King Tut's life and death. "The result is an exhilarating true-crime tale of intrigue, passion, and betrayal that casts fresh light on the oldest mystery of all."

In the end, the true story lies with King Tut and the citizens of his time and thus the mystery will continue to tempt people for years to come.

Mar. 13, 2010 - The Birth House by Ami McKay

This is a book that every woman should read in order to appreciate how far we have come. Set during a time when women were still unable to vote, women were ruled by their husbands, often having more children than they could handle due to limited birth control methods. Midwives did more than just help women deliver babies. The precursors of obstetricians, they provided advice and support for women throughout all situations - childbirth, illness, birth control, and other female issues. Women provided support to each other through church groups, socials, knitting clubs and other venues. The topics of marriage, love, sex, rape, abuse, children and healthcare are all discussed in these circles. 

In this book, first Miss B. and then Dora, support the women of Scot's Bay through the trials and tribulations of everyday life. When a new doctor comes to the area to set up a hospital where women can have painless childbirth, the townspeople are divided. The notion of a sterile, pain-free environment was certainly appealing. In fact, "twilight sleep" or obstetric anasthesia, as mentioned in the novel, was first introduced in the United States in 1914 to help women have painless birthing experiences. However, the expense of the procedure and the ineptness of Dr. Howard, contribute to the departure of the doctor and the closing of the hospital.

Dora grows from a young wife to a widow to a woman who knows what she wants and needs as she helps the women of Scot's Bay, finding her own happiness in the support of her community.

The author, Ami McKay, actually lives in an old birth house in The Bay of Fundy with her husband and two sons. Her second novel, The Virgin Cure, inspired by the work of her great-great grandmother, a doctor in 19th century New York specializing in women's and children's health, is to be released in the fall of 2010. Based on my enjoyment of her first book, I can't wait!

Mar. 12, 2010 - Prisoner of Tehran, by Marina Nemat

This tragic story of a sixteen year old girl, kidnapped, tortured and forced to marry to escape death, immediately attracted my attention. Having a daughter the same age who is experiencing a much different lifestyle, I felt an immediate connection and compassion for this girl and her family.

Written as a memoir, Marina Nemat relates her experiences in Iran during Ayatollah Komeini's reign, to the best of her recollection, changing the names of her cell mates in order to protect their identities. The author's note at the beginning of the book reveals that she has tried to recreate her experiences in Teheran's Evin prison and the dialogue of the story as closely as possible to actual occurrences but she had to "rely on my memory, which like any other person's, has a habit of fading and playing tricks."

I am sure it will be difficult to read about Marina Nemat's experiences as a Prisoner of Tehran but her courageous story will definitely help us realize how lucky we are to live in a country free of oppression and fear.

Mar. 11, 2010 - Switch by Chip Heath and Dan Heath

As the old saying goes, the more things change, the more they remain the same. Although we crave change, it remains one of the most difficult things to do in our lives. Whether we need a change in our career, our lifestyle, our appearance or our homes, we struggle with the notion of doing something different.

Teachers are among the worst when it comes to change, despite the fact that we should be the most flexible. For example, when a new report card system or curriculum emerges, the lamenting about the old system lasts for years. When the new system is finally accepted, another change is made and the cycle begins again. Unfortunately, in education, change for the sake of change is a problem. If something is working, it should be left alone and yet there is constant changing, shifting and renaming of thoughts and ideas. In the end, children are basically the same as they always were, only the tools and the vocabulary have changed.

Old habits die hard and so the process of making a change involves much discipline to be successful. We tend to like the old way because it is more comfortable and secure. So how do we go about making a "switch"? That is what I hope to discover as I continue to read.

Interestingly enough, this book is also available as an eBook, another big change that may revolutionize the printed word. Are we ready for the changes of the 21st century?

Mar. 10, 2010 - Enough Already by Peter Walsh

The more I read these self-help books, the more I realize that I may be experiencing what one would call a "mid-life" crisis. Why do I need so much advice at this point in my life? Considering the titles of recent readings - It's All Too Much, The Happiness Project, How to Stop Worrying and Start Living and now Enough Already - I have to wonder what the attraction is. Is the fact that I am in my 40's causing me to question whether I am getting all I want out of life or if there is perhaps a little more?

Certainly, the stress of the last 20 years has contributed to this. After years of juggling work, family and children, I do wonder if there isn't a better way, a more peaceful existence out there rather than one of constant pressures both self-imposed and environmental.

Work is an area that poses much of this stress. The second chapter of Enough Already deals with the issue of work and how we can find a balance in our lives. Walsh points out that "work is not life, and you should not get sucked into the clutter of work or let the clutter of your work overrun your life." Great in theory, but how can one accomplish this amazing feat? Walsh begins with a survey which gets right to the heart of the problem. Despite the fact that I am fairly happy with my career, it really made me think about some key areas that need decluttering.

Walsh proceeds to work through the problem areas offering advice, suggesting ideas, activities and challenges to help you begin to make some positive changes. Prioritizing your day, living in the present, facing fears, and celebrating success are just a few of the topics covered. Walsh does warn the reader that work is the area that will be the most difficult to change. It will require time, commitment and discipline before any improvements will be noticed. But since we spend so much time at work, it is worth beginning the process. For me, there is no time like the present to take action and I look forward to reading Walsh's suggestions in more depth.

Mar. 9, 2010 - The Birth House by Ami McKay

Set in a small Nova Scotian village, during the time of the first World War, this is the story of Dora Rare, the first daughter born to the Rare family in five generations. Dora, close to Miss Babineau, a woman who "catches babies", becomes her apprentice and helps women deliver their children, both in good times and in bad.

The first time she accompanies Miss. B., they deliver a child to a woman, abused by an alcholic husband, who already has 12 children. She doesn't want the new baby boy who is born prematurely and dies soon after he is born, in Dora's arms. Thus begins her journey of midwifery during a time before hospitals and modern medicine were available in rural areas. When Dr. Gilbert Thomas arrives in Scots Bay, touting a new type of painless childbirth, Miss B's methods are questioned. Upon her disappearance, Dora is left to proceed alone, continuing the traditional birthing methods of her ancestors, generations of "women's wisdom" passed down through the ages.

A national best-seller and one of Heather's Picks at Chapters, I am enjoying this intriguing narrative. Mixed with historical details and a bit of mystery, it is captivating for the reader, especially for women who can connect with the experience of childbirth. It also offers an intimate view into the difficult life of the seacoast inhabitants of eastern Canada.

Mar. 8, 2010 - How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

An oldie but a goodie, this book has been in print for over seventy years and yet the advice within its pages is still as current as if it was written today. Why is this the case? Because as much as the world itself has changed, people have fundamentally remained the same. Our personalities, instincts and desires are no different now than in any other decade.

Dealing with people is one of the biggest challenges we all face whether in our homes, with our families, in social situations or at work. If we can understand how to use our common sense and social abilities to win people over, life will become much easier. We all know how difficult it can be to live in the same space with others, to get along with our siblings or families, to work co-operatively with others or to be a good leader. Can these skills be taught? Can reading a simple book change our ability to deal with people?

Carnegie attempts to do just that by teaching us how to make people like you, how to win people to your way of thinking, and how to change people without giving offense or arousing resentment. As in How to Stop Worrying and Start Living, each chapter ends with a reminder of the fundamental principles. The book even begins with a guide including nine suggestions on how to read the book in order to ensure that learning occurs and that changes are possible.

As Thomas Edison once said, "Success is 10 percent inspiration and 90 percent perspiration." Even if this book inspires the reader to change, hard work is still involved to ensure these changes are implemented, reviewed and mastered. Only then will we truly Win Friends and Influence People.

Mar. 7, 2010 - Simple Abundance, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, by Sarah Ban Breathnach

"A little of what you fancy does you good." - Marie Lloyd

I discovered this book just before last Christmas and was so delighted with it that I gave it as a gift to some of my closest friends. It contains an entry for each day of the year, beginning with an inspirational quote and a corresponding anecdote or text. Each day's reading is fairly short so it is not overwhelming to devote a few minutes to start the day off with some inspiration.

The title of today's reading is "Outfitting a Comfort Drawer". This is defined as a drawer or other similar area, perhaps in a dresser or closet, that is filled with indulgences or favourite items to help you relax or bring you peace. The advice is to line the drawer with fancy paper, add something scented and fill it with all the things that you love so that when you are stressed it is a haven that you can turn to.

Interestingly, I recently made a "comfort" list of all the things I love that I cannot do without - my favourite teas, Bigelow fruit and almond and perfect peach; my favourite violin and orchestral music; Rhéo Thompson mint chocolate smoothies; potato chips; cinnamon hearts; Estée Lauder Beautiful body lotion; sci-fi videos like Star Trek and Stargate; and a multitude of books by my favourite authors.

A cup of tea, a mint chocolate, some music and a good book sound appealing now that I think about it. Before the day ends, devote some time to indulge in your favourite comfort items. It will bring you peace and help you unwind after a difficult or busy day.

Mar. 6, 2010 - Enough Already by Peter Walsh

I couldn't believe it when I saw this book at Chapters the other day - I had no idea Peter Walsh had written another book. I loved his last book It's All Too Much about decluttering our homes. Now, he has extended his decluttering techniques to people as evident in the subtitle "Clearing Mental Clutter to Become the Best You". On the one hand, it isn't surprising. Even in the first book, he mentioned that having a clean, uncluttered house benefits all areas of our lives. I certainly feel more peaceful and in control when my house is in order. In fact, I find it hard to concentrate if my house is a mess. Imagine what it is like in our brains when too many to do lists and too much information is cluttering our ability to think or to enjoy experiences.

"Does it seem like everything is moving so fast these days you can barely keep up? Do you sometimes feel that your life is spinning out of control?" If you answered yes to these questions, then you are probably feeling overwhelmed in one, some or all of the six areas discussed in this book: family, relationships, work, health, money and spirituality. Just as before, using humour while offering tips and practical advice, Peter Walsh provides us with strategies to take control of our lives by eliminating the emotional clutter hindering us.

Mar. 5, 2010 - The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin

"The least strained and the most natural ways of the soul are the most beautiful; the best occupations are the least forced." - Michel de Montaigne For some of us, identifying our passion is simple and straightforward, for others it is an overwhelming concept. Too often, we feel that it must be some lofty goal requiring tremendous soul-searching to uncover. Instead, if we consider what we spend much of our free time doing, discovering our passion is obvious.

I can relate to Gretchen's passion for books, reading and writing. I too love libraries and bookstores. Spending time each day reading, whether it be a novel, a magazine article or something on the internet, makes me happy. I can't imagine not reading during my day. Fortunately, my profession ensures that I have to read, for example when I mark student assignments or read about new curriculum policies or methods of teaching. It is interesting how often a person's passion matches a facet of their chosen profession.

My other passion is music. I started playing the violin in an elementary school program and was immediately enthralled. I didn't need any encouragement or reminders - I wanted to practise all the time. My parents relegated me to the basement for some peace and quiet. It wasn't long before I joined the orchestra at school, then a community orchestra as my playing improved. I played in music festivals, at recitals and concerts, in musicals, wherever and whenever I had a chance. Not only did I enjoy playing, I also enjoyed going to concerts. I remember seeing Itzhak Perlman as a high school student and being in awe of his performance and his amazing sound. It is not much different now that my children are grown. I find myself still pursuing my passion for music, listening to classical music above all other types, attending concerts frequently, playing in a variety of musical groups and supporting my children who also play the violin. Every year, I am so excited to read about new musical seasons at the symphony or the opera or the theatre. I think my ideal job would be that of orchestral musician, practising hours each day, performing in the evening and attending concerts in my spare time. In fact, I plan to pursue this in some form when I retire from teaching full time.

So, think about what you like to do. Chances are it is something you enjoyed doing even as a child. What do you gravitate to over and over again when you have spare time? What do you enjoy doing with your children? You won't have to look too far to discover what your passion is and pursuing it will bring you a lifetime of happiness.

Mar. 4, 2010 - Word Nerd by Susin Nielsen

L G R Y A L E - early, ale, all, gall, gel, leg, real, gear, largely, lag, gale - A L L E R G Y

Thus begins the first chapter of the book Word Nerd, an official selection for the Red Maple Awards voted on by Gr. 7 and 8 students. Each year, teachers at my school are asked to volunteer to present a book talk to students to inspire them to read books in the Red Maple program. This year, only two books were left when I visited the library and this was one of them. The title attracted me immediately since I happen to love words, whether in books, crossword puzzles, jumbles or especially games like Scrabble. In fact, each chapter begins with scrambled letters and I have enjoyed trying to figure out the title of the chapter before starting to read.

The second coincidence, which I discovered upon reading the inside book flap is that the main character, Ambrose, lives in the basement apartment of a house owned by Greek people, the Economopoulos family. Being of the same background, I formed an immediate connection. In fact, growing up, my parents were friends of the Economopoulos family, obviously different than the one in the story. References to Greek food and pastries, family life and mannerisms remind me of many families in my culture. The description of Mrs. Economopoulos could be any one of my older Greek relatives.

The beginning of the story is quite sad. Ambrose is bullied at school and nearly dies when The Three Stooges, a trio of bullies, put a peanut in his sandwich, knowing that he has a deadly peanut allergy. This sets in motion a series of events that will change Ambrose's life forever, bringing people into both his life and his mother's life that inspire them to move ahead and improve their own destinies. The relationships are mutually beneficial, each bringing to the other a new sense of purpose and acceptance that was previously lacking.

Full of issues pertaining to teens, this touching story is replete with connections to our own adolescence, reminding us of the feeling of uncertainty and our longing to find a place in the world.

Mar. 3, 2010 - How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie

The more I read this book, the more I like it. One of the most inviting features is the format. It is organized in seven parts, each containing one or more chapters about the main idea. The chapters are fairly short and relate the author's guiding principles and techniques supported by real-life examples and scattered with inspirational quotes. Each part ends with a brief synopsis - "Part One in a Nutshell" - restating the rules that support the techniques of that section. A reader could easily discover the most important points in the book just from reading these recaps. However, learning how to apply these rules to everyday personal or business situations requires reading the rest of the chapter.

Part 8 consists of a collection of testimonials or true stories by famous people such as J. C. Penney, Gene Autry and Jack Dempsey. While I recognize some of the names, others, due to the age of the book, are more obscure. That is why some of the profiles contain a description of the author before the story begins. For example, Colonel Eddie Eagan is a New York attorney, a Rhodes scholar, and a former Olympic Light-Heavyweight champion of the world. Hearing from others who have experienced worry and conquered it, helps us realize that we are not alone in our problems, that others have gone through bad experiences too. We can connect to others who are struggling and empathize with them.

The second part of the book discusses how to deal with worry by analysis. In any situation we must step back a moment to get the facts, to research and find information about our problem. From there, we need to weigh all the facts and then come to a decision. Once the decision has been made, we need to commit to it and take action. Writing down the problem and solution is recommended.  The following questions may be helpful: What is the problem? What is the cause of the problem? What are all possible solutions? What is the best solution?

This advice is so "common sense", one is left wondering why we can't figure this out on our own. Too often we sit in countless meetings and discuss the problem over and over again without coming to any solutions. Or we fight about what we think the solution should be. Thus, using the method described helps to avoid lengthy meetings, especially those in which items never appear to be resolved. Food for thought in any time period, past or present.

Mar. 2, 2010 - How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie

There is nothing to be gained by worrying, yet it is something that few of us can stop doing. Worry may cause stress, anxiety, fear and insomnia among other symptoms. We worry about our health, our finances, our children and our jobs. We worry when our children are small and worry more when they are older. Is there anything we can do to ease our anxiety?

The second chapter of Dale Carnegie's book reveals a magic formula for solving worry situations.

Step 1: Ask yourself, "What is the worst that can possibly happen."
Step 2: Prepare to accept it if you have to.
Step 3: Then calmly proceed to improve on the worst.

It sounds so simple but Carnegie proves that it works, as demonstrated by the successful application of the three-step process in different situations. Psychologically, once our mind deals with the worst that can possibly happen and accepts that outcome, a calmness sets in that creates peace of mind and increases our energy. We have nothing more to lose but much to gain so we are able to relax from our worries, think clearly and improve our situation.

Although I've never thought of it this way, when confronted with a big problem, I am the type of person who prefers to analyze a situation, research and discuss the problem and then take action. This process helps to focus my mind on something that I can do rather than just worrying. It's the smaller, everyday issues that I have trouble with and hopefully, as I read the rest of this book, I will learn more about how to deal with them.

Mar. 1, 2010 - Feel Calmer Now, 20 Essential Lists to Organize Your Life, Real Simple Magazine, Jan. 2009

Over the past few years, everywhere I turn, it seems that magazines, books, blogs and other media are inundated with information and advice on how to organize your life. Why is it that everyone is so desperate to improve this skill in the 21st century? What is it about society and our lifestyles that demand such efficiency? It is, therefore, no surprise that the January 2009 issue of Real Simple Magazine, a month of resolutions for most people, is dedicated to organization. And their suggestion to deal with the stress is to make lists.

I don't think anyone can disagree that "making a list and checking it twice" is a great strategy. It feels good to check off each item, one at a time, as it is accomplished. When the entire list is complete, we breathe a sigh of relief as a load is lifted off our shoulders. We feel calm, strong and in control. However, when lists become neverending we can feel overwhelmed and unable to focus. A strategy I like to use when I feel overwhelmed is to choose two important tasks for the day as a focus. In this way, the most important tasks of the day are assured to be completed. If anything else is accomplished, I consider it a bonus.

This issue contains numerous lists to help you organize every facet of your life. From lists on making dinner faster, to saving on home repairs, finding time to exercise, making your clothes last longer and simplifying your beauty routine, there is a list for every occasion. There are even lists about lists!

Despite the fact that I tend to be a highly organized person, I still gravitate to books about organization, hoping to find peace and control in my hectic life. It seems that the busier we are, the less time we have to spend on maintaining our homes and taking care of our families. With children involved in after school activities and us driving them to and fro most evenings and even weekends, we barely have time to have a social life and even less to relax at home. The demands involved in getting ahead - in our jobs, in our personal lives, in our finances, and in our possessions - are self-imposed. It's a little bit of the "keeping up with the Jones'" syndrome. We even sign up our kids for sports, music, math - whatever we feel they need to stay ahead of the other kids in their class and not miss out on the requisite opportunities to get ahead.

Instead of spending our time reading about organization, we need to take action. I've said that before, but I truly believe that taking action, even to tackle the smallest of jobs, will begin the positive cycle of change necessary to make progress. The first step is to reduce the number of commitments we have for ourselves and for our children. Not only will this give us more time to spend at home, but it will also give us a chance to unwind and to keep our belongings tidy. Children who are in too many activities will never become excellent in one area. It would be better to limit them to one physical activity and one academic or musical activity, than to overwhelm them with a gamut of activities that eat up a huge portion of their free time. In the book, The Outliers, Malcolm Gladwell talks about the 10, 000 hours needed to become an expert in an area. This would amount to 3 hours spent on a single activity each day for 10 years. That kind of practice will never happen if we spread ourselves or our children too thin.

I have enjoyed reading many other books and articles about organization and stress-control over the past year. Some of my favourites are It's All Too Much by Peter Walsh, How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie, The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin, and the website FlyLady.net. These texts have been helpful and inspirational in their ideas and reminders about how to be happy in life by controlling needless clutter and finding peace in the love and activities of everyday life.

Feb. 28, 2010 - The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society by Mary Ann Shaffer and Annie Barrows

"Revealing much about the aftermath of World War II in England, the novel is at once an unlikely love story, a portrayal of heroism and survival, and a subtle homage to the bond forged by literature." - The Charlotte Observer

Recommended by a friend, this novel is written in the form of letters between the various characters, who we come to know only through their literary interactions. What will it be like to read such a novel? Is it possible to form a connection to these characters in this style of writing? I imagine the reader will see different facets of the characters from the perspective of those they interact with. This will allow for multiple points of view which in turn may help to determine their personalities and desires.

I am also intrigued by the historical perspective. The author did extensive research on  the island of Guernsey and the German occupation of the English Channel during World War II. The letters are all written during the year of 1946, after the end of the war, so I am wondering what effect the war had on this island and how the Germans play a part in its history once the war is over.

The combination of an intriguing and unusual format combined with historical references to one of the most tragic of world events promises to provide an interesting story.

Feb. 27, 2010 - The Memory Keeper's Daughter by Kim Edwards

This book from the New York Times Bestseller list is one that I have been interested in reading for some time now. With high praise from authors such as Jodi Picoult and Sue Monk Kidd, it promises to be a touching novel "with language so lovely you have to reread the passages just to be captivated all over again...simply a beautiful book."

Already, the opening chapters, set the stage for an impossible and heart-breaking decision made in the midst of a snowstorm that affects the lives of all the characters involved. Two babies are born to a doctor and his wife at a clinic, as a storm rages outside. One of them, a boy, is perfectly healthy, while the other, a girl, is described as "a mongoloid - flaccid muscle tone, delayed growth and mental development, possible heart complications and early death." The doctor, whose Down Syndrome sister had died at the age of 12, causing grief for the entire family, both due to her death and to the constant attention required during her short life, makes the decision to send the baby to an institution to spare his wife the inevitable anguish. He then tells his wife the baby died. A nurse is sent to deliver the baby to the institution but she ends up keeping the baby herself. This sets up a chain of events that is sure to make for a heart-wrenching, emotionally-charged story.

What does the future hold for this tiny, challenged baby and her new mother? Will the doctor's wife ever find out that her daughter is alive? How will this change her relationship with her husband? I think it is inevitable that she will eventually discover the deception, given that secrets have a way of coming out, sometimes at the worst possible moment. But love can come in many forms and the love of this innocent child is sure to change the lives of all involved.

Feb. 26, 2010 - KW Symphony New Season Brochure

What better atmosphere for tonight's reading than the symphony? The concert I attended was entitled "An Italian Journey" and featured music from the Baroque to 20th Century eras that evoked the sights and sounds of Italy. From Monteverdi to Vivaldi, Verdi, Rossini, Mendelssohn and Nino Rota, the selections included some very well-known composers and musical compositions. Rossini's William Tell Overture has been used in cartoons and commercials and Nino Rota has written music for numerous film scores, with Romeo and Juliet being featured here.

While listening to this beautiful music, I was able to peruse the new brochure featuring next season's offerings. I was pleased to see the return of this year's highly successful Cirque de la Symphonie, a concert where circus acrobats, some from Cirque du Soleil, performed daring acts accompanied by inspiring music played by the orchestra. The Youth Orchestra played side by side with the symphony musicians at this concert and then was able to watch the rest of the show from the front row of the audience. They were enthralled. The combination of visual and aural created a breathtaking performance.

Of course, seeing my favourite violinist, James Ehnes, returning again next season, immediately caused an outburst on my part. I can't wait for September to hear him play again, this time in a gala concert featuring Vivaldi's Four Seasons, Beethoven Romance No. 1 and works by Massenet and Kreisler. There is even a dinner, live auction and dance after the concert which may be a little too expensive for me to attend. I'm more interested in hearing him play.

Of interest is a rendition of Frankenstein, narrated by Lemony Snicket (aka Daniel Handler) who presented The Composer is Dead a couple of years ago. It is now out in book form accompanied by a CD. This piece is described as "H. K. Gruber's pandemonium - a modern classic with a warped vision of childhood that is strange, hilarious and unexpectedly touching." Sounds intriguing! Daniel Handler has such a dry wit laden with sarcasm that I find him perfectly hilarious.

The Pops series features many interesting additions, including Bugs Bunny at the symphony, which is sure to draw young and old alike. Classical music is often used successfully in cartoons and this concert will feature video along with a live orchestra performance. Other notable concerts in this series include a Red Carpet Oscar Party, with music from many Academy Award Winning films as well as the 2011 winning soundtrack; Classical Comedy, narrated by conductor/comedian Rainer Hersch who conducts pieces such as William Tell Overture and Pachelbel's Canon with a special comedic twist; A Fiddler's Take on the Symphony featuring fiddle champion Frank Leahy; an evening of Frank Sinatra music; and Symphony in Space featuring the music of Star Trek, Star Wars and other sci-fi favourites. It's obvious the symphony is trying to attract a broader audience with these wonderful selections.

As Plato once said, "Music gives a soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination and life to everything." I hope more people will be attracted to the symphony with the amazing selection of music and soloists planned for the new season.

Feb. 25, 2010 - The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin

The term spiritual leader brings to mind many inspirational people - Mother Theresa, Ghandi, the Dalai Lama. These types of leaders can help provide us with the motivation and discipline needed to make a change in our lives. Many of them led difficult lives, yet they never gave up, they maintained a positive attitude and they helped others despite their own problems. We can learn a lot from their experiences and advice.

When Gretchen Rubin asked her blog followers about their spiritual leaders, the following names were put forward: Norman Fisher and Rabbi Charles Kroloff, two Zen teachers; Vincent Van Gogh, who is mostly known for cutting off his ear and sending it to his girlfriend (did he really?), but who was very spiritual, as shown in his letters, Dear Theo; Charles Darwin; Saint Paul; Ben Franklin; Lama Norlha Rinpoche, another Tibetan Buddhist; noted philosopher and writer, Henry David Thoreau; and Saint Francis of Assissi.

Hearing these names and thinking about finding a spiritual leader really sparked my interest and curiosity. Many of them are people I would love to learn more about. However, if I had to choose someone, who would it be? After some research, Gretchen came across someone who intrigued her - Saint Thérèse of Lisieux. The story of how she discovered this little-known saint and what she admired in her intrigued me as well. Often, the choice of a mentor is due to a quality in them that we admire. For example, James Ehnes is my ideal of a violinist as he is so technically precise in his playing yet he creates a beauty through this precision combined with the quality of his tone that is unequalled. I listened to many violin performers and attended numerous concerts before realizing my preference.

As to the question of a spiritual leader, that is something I will also have to research thoroughly before making such an important decision. Gretchen has provided me with some good suggestions here as a starting point on this journey.